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Decluttering: Letting go of part of my "identity"

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Today I managed to complete a major part of declutter. It was a long time coming but it's finally done. The donation is complete and I can let go of a part of my life that I'm both proud of and OK with being complete.

During the 1990s I became obsessed with video games, in particular console gaming. My main gaming computer was the Atari 8-bit computer. I used that up until I graduated college, so I missed an entire generation of games. My friend Dan actually got me into the next generation of console gaming, starting with the 3DO. I loved that console. The 3DO was one of the first consoles that had full-motion video and was an absolute delight for someone who had missed an entire generation of gaming. I started collecting games for that console. This lead to other console game collecting. I never had an Atari 2600 and it was cheap to collect for it so I started collecting for that as well. Suddenly I collected for many different consoles: Intellevision, Colecovision, Turbografx 16, Atari 5200, Atari 7800, Vectrex, Neo Geo CD, and of course, the Atari 8bit computers.

When the Sega Saturn came out I transferred my love of the 3DO to it. I started collecting for it like mad. Worse, the Sega Saturn had a lot of imported titles that didn't make it over to the states, or had better versions in Japan. We tried to modify my Saturn to play imported games, but sadly it turned into a not-great CD player. A new modified Saturn fixed that problem. I went nuts buying lots of imported games. I became a sort of expert on collecting for the system.

When the Dreamcast came out I applied the same collecting principles to that console. I grabbed every title I could.

I managed to gather a bunch of interesting titles for all of these systems. I had many rare titles for these machines. I played a bunch of these games and learned a lot from them.

I spent a lot of time seeking out new things for these machines. Part of my identity as being a video game collector. And I thought it was immutable.

I wanted to make a computing museum. I managed to score a bunch of retro computers from a friend, so I thought that it was only natural to make something that others could enjoy and learn about these magnificent machines. Over time I've realized that museums are a ton of work and expensive.

I noticed that the University of Michigan has a Computer and Video Game Archive. They have an amazing collection of games available for patrons to check out and play. Plus they also have a bunch of rarer systems for research purposes.

I could think of no better place to send off my collection. I couldn't think of a better place to realize my dreams of letting others enjoy the games that brought me joy. Plus there were games in my collection that go for unobtanium prices. A library has limited funds, so spending money to get those titles would be expensive and prevent them from putting that money to more important uses. Hopefully they can use my collection to fill in those gaps.

Several years ago I made my first donation. That was a lot of older systems that I didn't have much affinity towards. Today I made my latest donation. My beloved 3Do, Sega Saturn, Sega Dreamcast, and Turbografx 16, and some older games that didn't manage to get included in the previous run. I was only going to donate the Turbografx 16 and the older games but I realized that I was pretty much done with being a collector of the Saturn and Dreamcast. Part of this is the collector market, which has become an expensive place to inhabit. Part of it was just holding onto systems that I barely used. And part of it was wanting to focus on machines that actually bring me joy and might help me with my programming. I'm focusing on consoles and computers that mean something to me and are machines that I have a fighting chance of programming someday. I've narrowed my focus to the essential. Maybe someday I'll narrow it more. But for now I'm content.

Maybe someday I'll get the itch to play these games again. If that's the case I can schedule some time to head on own to the CVGA and play them. But I doubt it. This was my second time making a donation to the CVGA, and my second time being there. I didn't miss the consoles and games that I donated then and I'm pretty sure that I won't miss the consoles and games that I've donated today.

The decluttering continues, but this feels like a major accomplishment. I've shed what I thought was an immutable part of my person and it feels liberating. I'm not bound by past decisions and can be more nimble with my future. I've long said that I don't want to be the curator of the museum of my bad decisions. That's still true, but perhaps I should expand that: I don't want to be the curator of the museum of my past selves. That part of me no longer resonates. Perhaps it will someday, but for now I'm OK with letting it be dormant. I need to let my collector mentality rest for a bit and allow myself to actually enjoy the things that I let into my life.

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This is great and so is the UMich gaming archive. <3 you Craig.
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This morning JoDee tested positive for COVID. This is more of a relief than anything because she's been having the same symptoms as me without having that bright purple line to say that, indeed, she has COVID. Our long house-wide nightmare is over.

Us getting COVID was inevitable. Masks have now become something you wear on Halloween, and every safety protocol has been lost to time like the forgotten rituals of yore. Only the hospital requires masks, but even that is just policed by a little kiosk asking you to put on a surgical mask. Part of this is chalked up to the "if I get it I'll be fine" cowboy mentality that pervades the USA. What isn't taken into account are the folks who have immune systems that aren't as clued-in to fighting disease as most folks. Folks who are immunocompromised are just left to twist in the wind. Folks like cancer patients. Folks like me.

I'm actually doing better than most. I've been taking Zarxio after each chemo treatment so my white blood cell count is through the freakin' roof. The biggest downside (outside of having mild COVID symptoms, which aren't great) is that my tenuous schedule of appointments for next actions for my treatment has been blown completely asunder. I had to miss chemo this week (had I not had COVID I'd be working on getting ready for chemo and not writing this post). There's the potential for some serious knock-on effects as a result. I was already navigating a thin line between having surgery to remove the more egregious "nodes" on my liver, but with this delay I might no longer be eligible. That could seriously reduce the quality of my life (dead is considered a steep quality-of-life drop-off). It may not be that dire but the potential is there.

What pisses me off the most is that our race to pre-2020 levels of normal have removed the safety measures for folks like myself. I'm relatively well-vaccinated (my last booster was in May, before the new variant vaccines were available) so I should be OK health-wise, but the knock-on effects of getting COVID at all could be life-changing. And JoDee was due to get her booster this Friday (which she's going to have to cancel). Had we left the masking provisions in place we might have avoided it (it's hard to say for certain, but I believe that our chances would have been reduced). And I get it - wearing something over my face for long periods of time isn't terribly comfortable. But even though JoDee and I have been wearing KN-95 masks wherever we go we still managed to catch the COVID-cooties. That's because masks aren't to help protect you, they're also to help limit the spread of the disease. Naturally that little tidbit gets lost in the retelling, so I'm here to remind you that it still matters.

(And of course this is assuming that folks were amenable to wearing masks in the first place, but it seems the USA is capable of taking the simplest request for public safety and turn it into a complete shit show. I'd rather keep the shit shows in this post to the ones that I have an immediate say, not systemic issues that would require a PhD in Sociology and 15 volumes of texts to fully explain. Let's just leave it at that.)

I've lamented how I feel our return to the workplace and the removal of mask mandates were ill-conceived notions of normalcy. But I'm but a small voice in the wilderness compared to the grinding wheels of capitalism. All I can do is share my experience about how COVID could affect my treatment schedule and my overall quality of life. But it shouldn't be left to the ones who are affected to have to pipe up each time to tell folks they're being affected. Folks with worse immune systems than mine have been screaming that they're being shut out because of the lowering of safety standards. We need to rethink re-adding mask mandates and safety protocols if we're ever going to move past COVID. I hope by sharing my story that folks pay attention to the ones that will be most affected by our reckless abandonment of COVID protocols.

If not for me, your old pal on the Internet, then maybe for someone else you care about. Because we're all in this together.

Wear your mask. Practice safe distancing. Don't feed after midnight.

Simple.

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Monday, June 27, 2022 - aphoristic noodling

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Monday, June 27, 2022

aphoristic noodling

I read this post by Baldur Bjarnason, listing "Everything I’ve learned about web development in the almost twenty-five years I’ve been practising", and this followup, which says:

Some of the aphorisms ended up not-so-pithy, but it was overall a fun little experiment that I recommend: note down everything relevant about the craft that you can think of over the space of a week.

I thought about this, and then I thought: Ok, what exactly is my craft? I do computer shit. So I started a list about that, challenging myself to be descriptive about things and not veer too far into pure advice.

A year or so passed, and I noticed this post was still sitting in my "work in progress" directory. I tried picking it back up and noticed how much overlap it would have with other posts like these:

This style of writing is basically catnip to people like me, whether it's of much use to anyone else or not. This post ultimately felt like a dead end, because instead of a blog post, it really wants to be some long document where I collect all sorts of aphorisms, pithy quotes, eponymous laws, and so forth about technical work and maybe just work generally. Maybe I'll start that document one of these days.

Anyway, that very partial and uneven list:

  1. Caching is hard to think about and breaks often.
  2. Cleverness in code is generally a sign of danger.
  3. Business ruins everything.
  4. Some forms of interoperability are a trap.
  5. Bad ideas aren't limited to bad people.
  6. Good people aren't limited to good ideas.
  7. An aesthetic is not an ethic.
  8. The customer is usually wrong.
  9. If it's written in:
    • C: It'll work, but I should remember there's a buffer overflow or something.
    • PHP: It'll probably work, but there's an SQL injection vulnerability somewhere and the cool kids will be shitty about it being PHP.
    • Python: 50/50 whether it'll just barf stack traces into my terminal for non-obvious reasons.
    • Ruby: Decent chance I'll wind up reading the source code and cursing at clever Ruby programmers.
    • Haskell: It works, but I'm not smart enough to understand it.
    • Rust: Probably works, if they finished writing it. I'm not smart enough to understand the code.
    • Go: Total crapshoot, but either way I bet the CLI has a bunch of infuriatingly nested subcommands.
    • JavaScript: Life is too short to deal with whatever package management and runtime I'm supposed to use for this now.
    • Java: If I have to find out it's Java, I'm probably in trouble.
  10. Lightweight markup languages are fundamentally in tension with the range of structures that their users will inevitably want to express.
  11. Design, marketing, and management are all real undertakings, but they are also aggressively self-reproducing ideological systems and political projects.
  12. Environments within which small tools can be combined to operate on simple abstractions are powerful. An environment might be what you think of as an operating system, a programming language, a database, or an application. All else being equal, the ones that can bridge to other environments are more powerful.
  13. There are few abstractions in computing more stable than filesystems, standard IO, text files, and the shell. Boring relational databases aren't too far behind, but the barriers to entry and data transfer are higher.
  14. Technology is at least as fashion-oriented as the sartorial choices of highschoolers, actors, and musicians. Changes are driven as much by a desire for difference from the perceived status quo as anything else.
  15. Technical politics are also organizational, labor, and identity politics. The currents of power they involve are illegible without taking those factors into account.
  16. There's no guarantee that your technical preferences will match up with the ideas, people, or power structures you find agreeable in other domains. (Or vice versa.)

tags: topics/technical, topics/work

p1k3 / 2022 / 6 / 27

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Exit Interviews Are a Trap

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Exit Interviews Are a Trap

I was leaving a job after a few years followed by several really bad months. My last day was Friday, and on Tuesday afternoon I got the calendar invite from my boss: “Exit Interview, Thursday 1pm”.

I did something that, in most cases, is a very bad idea: I went to that interview and told my boss exactly why I was leaving, and what I thought he could do to change things. I want to use this story to talk about exit interviews: why they are, generally speaking, a trap; how to handle them if you get asked to go to one; and, finally, why I chose to break my own rule.

Exit interviews are a trap

Say you’re leaving a job, and you have some criticism. Maybe your boss sucked. Maybe the working conditions were bad. Maybe your teammates were hard to work with. Maybe the food in the cafeteria is better on the other side of Sand Hill Road. Whatever: the details of the criticisms are unimportant; the question is, should you air them out at the exit interview?

Well, it’s time for some game theory1:

If you keep your mouth shut, nothing changes. Whatever departing impression your colleagues and bosses have of you, whatever references they may (or may not) give, stay unchanged. The company, too, stays unchanged.

What if you speak up? Total honesty, say what you think.

Let’s consider the upside: maybe the company changes! Probably not, though: whatever the criticism is, it’s highly unlikely it’s something new. People typically don’t quit over one-time problems; they quit over patterns. That obnoxious coworker, everyone knows he’s terrible, they’ve just chosen to avoid the problem rather than addressing it. Or they’ve tried and failed. It’s highly unlikely that your feedback will be the thing that finally moves the needle. Not impossible, it does happen, but it’s rare. And even if your feedback does finally start some change – it’s too late for you. You’re already out the door. The time to fix the problems was months ago, before you got fed up and started your job search.

So, the best case scenario is a very unlikely chance of a positive outcome, and even if you get that positive outcome, it’s of no direct value to you.

Now let’s consider the downside. What if what you say rubs someone the wrong way? Telling your boss exactly why he was a bad manager might not go over well. Maybe that coworker you want to complain about is actually the CEO’s nephew. Maybe HR knows all about the food and is sick and tired of hearing about it. There are all sorts of ways that your former employers might retaliate. They might decide not to give a reference they would have before the exit interview. They might say bad things about you at industry events. It might be more subtle: they might just carry a negative impression of you in the back of their minds, and when you both end up working together again in the future they’ll hesitate to trust you. Or it might be blatantly unethical or even illegal. They could tell you they’re fine to be a reference, but when someone calls they could say bad things. They could refuse to confirm your employment to a background investigator. They could call your new company and tell them you were fired for fraud.

These are all real stories: every single one of those hypotheticals is actually something I’ve seen happen. So, the worst-case scenario is&mldr; real bad! Potential job-ending or even career-limiting retaliation.

This is especially true for people early in their careers. If you burn a reference, and this is your first job, it can be very hard to get a second. If you get badmouthed around the industry, and you don’t have an established professional network to refute the allegations, people will believe the lies.

This is why I say exit interviews are a trap. There’s no upside, and a lot of downside. The best case scenario (positive change) is highly unlikely, and even if it happens, of no direct value to you. And the worst case scenario is retaliation that could haunt you for years. If we could calculate an “expected average outcome”, like an expected value of a bet, it’d be deeply negative. Nobody who knows the odds would take this bet.

So how should I handle an exit interview request?

Despite this, exit interviews are exceedingly normal. If you leave a job, you can expect to be asked to sit for one by your boss, a skip-level boss, HR, or maybe all three. What then?

Here’s what I recommend:

  • Avoid the meeting if possible. Don’t go if you think you can get away with it. You can certainly refuse to go (you already quit; what are they going to do about it?2) but sometimes outright refusal will feel too hostile. You can also run out the clock: keep having last-minute conflicts and reschedule until your last day, then discover you have too much to do that last day to make time, so sorry.
  • If you must go – if you get cornered, if you feel declining or avoiding will come across poorly and risk burning a bridge – be totally bland. Why are you leaving? You found a great opportunity elsewhere and had to take it. Do you have any feedback? Nothing comes to mind. What could they have done to keep you? Oh, it’s not about leaving them, it’s about joining the new place.

    If asked for feedback about someone specific, here’s a phrase you can use: “I have nothing bad to say about them”. This has the advantage of being true: even if this is someone you can’t stand, you have nothing bad to say about them. You’re signaling that even if you have things you think, you’re not going to say them. You need to practice saying this in a breezy, friendly, upbeat tone: don’t play tricks; don’t wink.

  • Lie if you must. Usually I’d say dishonesty at work is unethical, but there are situations where it’s not; this is one of them. (I’ll have more to say about honesty at work in my next post; stay tuned). I don’t recommend outright lies: saying you love your manager when they’re the reason you’re leaving helps them continue to hide bad behavior. I recommend instead something simple and bland like saying “nothing comes to mind” or “hm I haven’t really thought about it, not sure.”

  • Let it be awkward. If HR has a 20 question script and you’re answering every question with “nothing comes to mind”, it’s going to be weird. That’s not your fault: it’s weird because exit interviews themselves are weird. Be prepared for the awkwardness, and stick to the plan.

Why I broke my own rules

Now that I’ve explained why exit interviews are a trap, why did I decide to ignore my own rules?

There are several reasons why people might want to air their grievances at an exit interview:

  • They haven’t really thought about it strategically: they just sort of go in without a plan and answer questions like they would at any other meeting.
  • Catharsis: they’ve been wanting to say the thing, and now that they’re leaving they finally feel like they can. Or, they’ve been saying it all along, but now they think they’ll finally be heard.
  • They believe their feedback will lead to change. They want to improve things for their colleagues who are staying, for whoever replaces them. They genuinely want the company to do better! Their compassion leads them to overestimate the likelihood of this change, and underestimate the potential cost of speaking up.

My motivation was that last one. I was leaving a team behind, and I was worried about how things would go for them after I left. I genuinely liked most of my coworkers, even the ones I thought that were making the wrong moves, and wanted better things for them. And, yeah I did overestimate the likelihood that my parting feedback would make a difference.

However, even with all of that, I would have stuck to my “say nothing” guns if not for another factor: I didn’t think I had any downside risk. Let me explain:

  • I’m well-established in my career. I have over 20 years of experience, which means that any one former employer has limited power over my career. I don’t need the reference; I have plenty. I don’t need to emphasize any particular job on my resume; I have others.

  • I have a very strong professional network. People know me, know the kind of person and co-worker I am. If someone were to badmouth me, it almost certainly wouldn’t work: lies would be fairly obvious. Any attempt to sabotage me would likely backfire.

  • I’m financially stable, and had my next job already lined up. I wasn’t going to have a gap in employment, and even if I did, I have the savings to withstand it. The worst-case scenarios aren’t very bad.

  • Finally, and most importantly: I knew my boss and co-workers very well, everyone in a position to react to my feedback, and had a lot of trust they’d take feedback professionally. We had a workplace high in psychological safety. I’d given critical feedback before, many times, and had never experienced defensiveness, retaliation, or any other sort of negative outcome. Further, I knew they’d listen to me, and consider my feedback carefully. Even when we’d disagreed, I’d always felt my feedback was heard and considered.

So by my calculation, there was no real downside to speaking up. The sort of scary retaliation scenarios were deeply unlikely, and even if they happened, I have the professional standing such that they’re not a threat. This makes the average expected outcome of speaking up slightly positive: there’s a small chance I’ll improve things for the folks still working there, and no real downside risk.

So what happened?

As you know from reading my blog, I’m very convincing. My soon-to-be-former boss listened to everything I had to say, and immediately made the changes I was suggesting, and the company is doing very well now.

Er, no. Not at all.

My boss thanked me for my feedback, and nothing changed. Several other folks quit over the next few months. Last I checked, the organization was still very much headed in the direction that I disagreed with.

Like most people, I was wrong about the likelihood of an exit interview truth bomb leading to change. I’m glad to say I my trust was correct, though: my former boss and co-workers continue to say nice things about me.

I think I made the right choice, but it’s still not the decision I recommend. Exit interviews are a trap. Unless you know you’re immune, don’t walk into the trap.


  1. Sorry. ↩︎

  2. Occasionally, unethical HR people will threaten to without a final paycheck or other benefits if you don’t participate in the exit interview. This is illegal (in the US, at least). ↩︎

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I think he's mostly correct.
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wednesday, march 16, 2022

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wednesday, march 16, 2022

what's the distance
between a nervous habit
and a ritual tradition?

maybe just time and the collection plate
or how much group dynamics and trappings of
the numinous you can gin up

but i notice how
a lot of us have lost all touch with the latter
while accumulating a distinct excess
of the former

p1k3 / 2022 / 3 / 16

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This hits home with some "got dang why can't we find community anymore?" discussions my wife and I have been having.
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It’s (Still) Not Rocket Science

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In 2014 the creator of the Rust programming language wrote a blog post entitled, “The Not Rocket Science Rule Of Software Engineering.” In the post, Graydon Hoare describes an arcane CI system he cobbled together circa 2001.

the team cooked up a system of cron jobs, rsync, multiple CVS repositories and a small postgres database tracking test results.

– Graydon Hoare, “not rocket science” (the story of monotone and bors)

The system sounds hopelessly antiquated by today’s standards – nobody is using CVS!

At the end of last year, GitHub introduced the Merge Queue, a mirror of GitLab’s (premium-tier only) Merge Trains feature. This means as of 2022, most of the major software forges have almost caught up with a duck tape CI system from 2001.

It’s not rocket science

The concepts developed building this piecemeal system turned out to be vital in the early days of Rust. So vital, the author felt compelled to write a blog post coining a rule to help identify this concept.

The rule itself is straightforward:

The Not Rocket Science Rule Of Software Engineering:

automatically maintain a repository of code that always passes all the tests

Lurking under that placid description is a simple concept, but it’s challenging to execute.

Why is this so hard

Most CI systems only guarantee that the tests pass in your branch. But that’s different than saying your tests will pass when your branch merges.

One reason for this mismatch may be integration friction: your branch diverged from the main branch over time.

It’s unsafe to merge changes in parallel in a conventional CI system. Semantic conflicts between patches can break the build post-merge. Imagine renaming a method in one branch while merging a patch that depends on that method in another.

The queue

Adopting a rebase-and-merge policy is a possible solution — where you rebase and merge all patches one at a time.

But processing a queue in serial is slow and won’t scale up as you add more developers.

Speculative future state

By enqueuing patches to rebase-and-merge in order, you’re creating a deterministic code state. We know what the codebase will look like after each patch is rebased and merged, so we can do that work up-front.

We can test the second patch in parallel with the first as if the first patch has already merged.

Main@𝑥² = HEAD + 𝑥¹
Main@𝑥³ = HEAD + 𝑥¹ + 𝑥²

We can run the tests for all patches in the queue in parallel. Waiting to merge each patch until all the patches in front of it pass their tests.

If a patch fails, we remove it and re-run the tests for all the patches behind it in the queue—it’s not rocket science!

This is how the Merge Queue and the Merge Train work today.

Multiply by 𝑛

One of my former colleagues was fond of saying:

The only numbers that matter in computer science are 0, 1, and 𝑛.

The “not rocket science” problem gets more complicated when a production build is composed of 𝑛 repos.

At my work, we’ve yet to embrace the monorepo trend 😬. We (nominally) have our reasons outside this post’s scope. The result is a release to production composed of roughly 200 different repositories – some of which depend on one another in an ever-spidering graph of maddening dependencies.

What we do

Sometime in 2012, the Openstack Infrastructure team started work on Zuul. Zuul maintains what it calls “pipelines.” Dependent pipelines can ensure that patches across multiple repos get tested and merged together as if they were part of a single Merge Train or Merge Queue.

Zuul treats each pipeline like a queue and maintains a shadow version control system that allows testing speculative future states across repositories in parallel.

Today it’s a decade after development began on Zuul — more than two decades after Graydon Hoare’s duck tape CI system. And the most prominent and best-funded software forges in the history of humanity are pretty gosh darn close to catching up.

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